Afraid of Dying?

Yesterday one of my good friends asked me if I'm afraid of dying. Not because anything is wrong but we were just having a discussion about fears. This is her biggest fear in the world.

In case I've never told you before, I am a total worrier.

I worry about everything- what will happen today, tomorrow, and 30 years from now.  I of course have even more anxiety after losing Aiden. I mean how can you not? My fears are over the top now. If someone doesn't answer their phone I think they may be on the side of the road somewhere. If someone is running late I think they are in the hospital. It's enough to drive anyone insane but that's my life now. I worry, I have fear, I panic, and I work myself into a fit.

So when my friend asked me if I was afraid of dying I know she was expecting me to say yes. I mean of all the things to be afraid of that has to be a big one on a lot of people's lists. And you're talking to someone who is fearful of everything.

But my answer was no.....not any more.

I used to be afraid of dying. It's the ultimate unknown. The biggest "what is going to happen when..."

I mean I have an idea of what life and Heaven will be like from what I've learned at church and from reading the bible. Actually after we lost Aiden I received a book called Heaven by Randy Alcorn. You can check it out here if you're interested.

This book is pretty thick so I haven't read the whole thing but I did skip around to the parts I was really interested in- I wanted to know where my Aiden was, what he was doing, who he was with, if he remembered me. The book uses scriptures to give you an idea of what things will be like in Heaven. It was helpful to me but I still am at a loss. I still wonder exactly what Heaven is like. I believe my son is incredibly happy. I believe he feels no pain and is showered with love daily. I believe he is with loved ones that have passed on before us. I believe one day I will see him again. But other than that I'm not sure what to expect from Heaven.

But am I afraid of dying now? No.

It just means I'll be able to see my Aiden again. And that my friends will be a special special gift.

Don't get me wrong- I'm not saying that I'm trying to check out now (in case you were worried). I want to enjoy as much of my life as I can while I'm here on earth. I want to make the most out of every moment with my family, every laugh Nygel and I share, every smile I get from Baby Jack and any other children I'm blessed with. I try not take any of the important stuff for granted because life is so fragile and uncertain. I know that's what Aiden would want for me. To be happy in this life.

But I can't help but think about the day that I'll get to see my son again. It will be pretty special even if it is 50 years from now. I like to think that one day my family will be whole again- together.

How do you feel about death and dying after losing your precious baby? Is this a fear of yours?